Stop Quoting Scripture At Me!

Stop Quoting Scripture At Me!



Have you ever had a conversation with someone who did not share your same beliefs about the Bible? Think about that very carefully before you answer. I don’t mean with someone that you go to church with and you just don’t completely agree with the interpretation of a few scriptures. I don’t mean when you would sit down with a friend with the intent of winning. I don’t mean an argument or debate where you were too busy getting ready to prove the other wrong that you didn’t pay attention to what they were saying. When was the last time you cultivated a relationship with someone and then decided to have a mutual conversation about the Bible and its message?

If you have never been in a situation like that I applaud you. But more times than not we enter these conversations with a mindset that says, “I am right, and I am going to convince you I am right no matter what”. But is this the most productive way to get someone to listen to what you have to say, or more importantly, what the bible has to say.


No matter what the topic of conversation, you are speaking to another human being. A person, who has lived a life of their own, that may be incredibly different than yours. I stumbled upon a video a few months ago called “Dear Church, I’m Gay”, and it had a pretty powerful message. NOTICE: I DO NOT SUPPORT OR CONDONE EVERYTHING IN THE VIDEO!!!

But the premise behind was something that I believe we should do more of. The video is about a man who wants to evangelize the LBGTQ community. Throughout the process, he does something that many probably wouldn’t think of doing. He put down his Bible and got to know them. This is what it is about. Building relationships with others and letting them know that you wouldn’t be discussing these things if you didn’t love them.


Obviously, I would prefer not to have a Biblical discussion without using the Bible. But there is a difference between quoting scripture at someone and discussing scripture with someone. Whichever scenario you find yourself in, God’s word is crucial.


The point I am trying to make today is that I want everyone to more effective when talking to others about God’s Word. And it is my personal belief that the way to do that comes with a relationship first. Getting to know someone and being able to show them that you love them and have an interest in their life and who they are. Not by looking for a debate, or by doing your best to “win”, or even by trying to prove yourself right.

Care for others. Love others. Let them know that God loves them too.

John 3:16
John 15:9-ff
Romans 5:8

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